If Only I Could

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How do I accept things I cannot change?

If Only I Could

If you have an elderly loved one you care for, make certain you learn to listen and communicate effectively.

If your loved one can speak, listen to what he or she is saying.

Sometimes the elderly will converse about something you know absolutely nothing about, because you were not there.

These stories might have occurred twenty, thirty, or even forty years ago.

To get a complete understanding of what is being said, ask questions.

Take notes.

When visiting with your loved one, take the time to look at family albums. Record these moments in your notebook.

If the photos do not contain the names of the subject matters, record them on the back of the photograph, or somewhere convenient so these moments of history can be remembered and shared with others.

Place yourself in the shoes of your elderly loved one.

Imagine what it must be like to know the biological clock of time is quickly ticking away, and you are powerless to stop it.

You could be changed forever by using this approach.



Cry if needed.

Above all, communicate.

Listen. Share your thoughts. Make the most of every moment you share.



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